My unrealistic goal was to blog everyday. My realistic goal was to blog once a week. I began blogging about once a month. And here I am....my last blog was in October!!!! Life is just crazy, busy and there is never enough time in the day.
Updates: Let's see....I'm over the whole "spectrum" thing. Number one, I realized that my feelings for my baby, whether he is or isn't on the spectrum, will never ever change. I feel like I should be real about things and never candy coat, but that I shouldn't ruin Colin's entire 2nd year of life worrying myself sick. That being said, we did have him screened for autism and he is not at risk for it. Phew! Again....it wouldn't have changed how I felt toward my baby boy, but I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't enormously relieved. Bottom line - he has a speech delay...and that's OKAY. he's talking so much more now and we rarely have trouble deciphering what he is trying to say. Some phrases we love hearing him say:
"tip tip tooray!" (hip hip hooray)
"love you mommy" (or daddy, or jojo, or whoever)
"it's snowing!! Merry chwistmas!" (no matter the time of year)
"what happened mommy?"
"no Joey! Let go!"
"mommyyyyyyyy where aaaaaaaare youuuuuuuu?"
"I want Tom and Jerry!"
"mommy! I missed you!"
And those are just a few. My mom jokes that sometimes she wants to take him to "unspeech" to get him to shut the hell up! ;) so...speech is working.
Colin is now 41lbs. We had to move him up to the next size carseat because his big ol' butt wouldn't fit in the previous carseat. (Joey is now in Colin's old one....sniff sniff). He is becoming a little pickier with what he eats (like...no veggies..we have to sneak them in). He's not fat at all though...he's so TALL! He looks like some of the kindergarteners at my school.
He's definitely giving meaning to "terrible twos." I dont think that the winter months are helping him - the kid needs to RUN! He spends some time in Time Out. It's only for two minutes but it feels like FOREVER! He usually cries and makes up that he is hurt' "IM CWYING MOMMY! OH! I HAVE A BOO BOO!" I only fell for it once, but he's really hoping that a boo boo will get him out of that Time Out chair.
Each and every time it snows he says, "I need boots, hat, gloves, coat, outside!" and we oblige. :). He has become a whiz at puzzles and he knows all of his letters. We are attempting the potty training thing (slow goin'....but it's said that boys take longer...it's just that he's in the biggest size diapers!!! What's next? Depends?????) and just tonight Brian and I bought him a big boy bed. It's time...he was looking a little ridiculous in a crib and, well, he escaped the other day! He must have planned it out strategically because neither my mother nor I heard a sound. All of a sudden Colin was strolling down the stairs. Ay yai yai!!!
On to my Joseph....he's 11 months old. ELEVEN!!!! I can't believe it! I can distinctly remember what it felt like having him in my belly as I waddled around, and now I'm planning his FIRST BIRTHDAY?!?!?!?! It's absolutely insane! He has 7 teeth now which he proudly shows off every time he flashes that beautiful smile. He's starting to TALK!!! His first word was "tee tee" (our word for pacifier) and now he says mama, dada, bye bye, up, cheese, all done, and Blues Clues ("coos coos"). He LOVES to dance. I'm convinced he will be a music lover for the rest of his life....can't wait for those teenage years!!
Joey literally eats EVERYTHING! Occasionally it is something inedible but most of the time it's actually food. His favorite foods are fruit and anything that someone else is eating. :) today he was mooching off of Allison's plate of salt and vinegar chips and he has been known to "throw down" with his brother over a bowl of popcorn. He's strong too and often wins!! He also has QUITE the temper. I often tell brian, "he's BITCHING at us!" thankfully he has turned into the BEST sleeper though he's been having a ton of bloody noses at night. Poor guy! It's scary walking in his room and seeing blood smeared all over his face and his crib sheets. We have a humidifier in there 24/7 but it's not seeming to help. I had bad bloody noses when I was a kid too....but any suggestions? Before he goes to bed at night we put some Ayr Gel in his nostrils (mom's suggestion) and it seems to work.... But do I have to use it every night until winter is over??
Well....I certainly don't have enough written here to cover all that has happened the past 4 months because 4 months in "kid time" is forever! So much happens and changes! I've been extra busy at work because I helped plan a Wellness Fair. I'm hoping that I will have more time to do the things I love, like this blog, now that things at work have slowed down. We'll see....I'm at least hoping it isn't another four months!!!
Last but not least I have to reflect on my marriage. Marriage is hard enough, but throwing in two kids who are twenty months apart....that's really hard. Brian and I don't always have the time that we would like with each other. Many night after work it's "survival mode": dinner, baths, get the kids down, laundry, pick up the house, choose outfits for the next day....and then we're usually too tired to talk or watch TV. We always give each other a big hug and a big smooch before bed and we always, always tell each other how much we love the other. When we miss each other, we make a date (thank goodness for our babysitters). Usually it's a day date during nap time because neither of us like to be away from the babies for too long....it's a little easier to be away when we know that they're sleeping.
I am SO lucky that I am married to a man who loves me, takes care of me, takes care of his babies and, best of all, takes care of himself. I m so lucky that he communicates with me and that our discussions are productive, lively, funny, serious....... He is reflective and he always takes a minute to put himself in someone else's shoes. And gosh....he loves his kids. And they love him back...especially our Joseph. When he sees Brian he lights up, crawls quickly to him, begs to be picked up and then kisses him and kisses him and kisses him......
We don't always have the time we want with each other, but we will take what we can get and make the most of it.
Our wedding song was "The Luckiest" by Ben Folds.....and it still holds true....
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